Never date an inconsistent woman. When I was younger, I made a big mistake: I chased after girls who weren’t really interested in me. I thought if I tried hard enough, I could win them over. Spoiler alert: it didn’t work.
Let me tell you what inconsistent behavior looks like:
- She’s super into you one day, then ignores you the next
- She makes plans, then cancels last minute without a good reason
- She keeps looking at your social media but rarely initiates contact
- She’s affectionate in private, but distant in public, maybe even got another guy on the hook
When you really like awoman, it’s hard to see these red flags. You might think some back-and-forth is normal. Maybe you’ve heard of “playing hard to get”.
Sure, attraction by a woman can change a bit, especially if you’re not doing everything right. We all have off days or moments when we messed up a bit. That’s normal. But there’s a big difference between a woman who responds to your mistakes, or a woman who’s consistently inconsistent. Let me break it down:
- Normal behvaior: A woman pulls back because you clearly made a mistake, like overtexting her and chasing her a lot
- Not okay: She pulls away randomly, as if it’s a game, even if there’s no real reason for it.
- Normal behavior: She’s busy with work and can’t text as much for a few days but she let’s you know what’s going on.
- Not okay: She disappears for days without explanation, then acts like nothing happened.
Here’s the hard truth: You can’t change these types of women. I know, because I’ve tried. I thought if I was patient enough, understanding enough, or if I showed her how much I cared, she’d eventually chase me. But that’s not how it works with women.
Sometimes you might think you need to “educate” a girl about consistency, especially if you’re already dating. But let me save you some time and your sanity: That’s usually just an uphill battle. It’s a waste of your time and energy. If a woman is inconsistent with you, she’ll almost never change that.
Instead, do yourself a favor: date other women. I know it might seem hard, especially if you really like this girl. But trust me, it’s the best thing you can do for yourself.
Remember, there are plenty of women out there who will want to date you long-term. Women who will be excited to see you, who will make an effort to stay in touch, who will be clear about their feelings or what’s going on in their lives – and they usually stick around you, very closely.
If you’re young man, maybe the dating pool seems small right now. Maybe you think you don’t have many options. That’s probably even true. But don’t let that temporary scarcity make you put up with inconsistent women. It’s better to be single than to be with a woman who makes you constantly doubt where you stand.
- A consistent woman communicates clearly, even if she’s upset
- She makes time for you and sticks to plans
- She shows interest in your life and shares about hers
- Her words and actions match
These are the kinds of women you want to date. So next time you notice a pattern of inconsistency, don’t ignore it. Don’t make excuses for it. Take it as a sign to move on. Focus your energy on finding a woman who’s consistently excited about you and follows through with her actions.
Trust me, you’ll be much happier with a girl who shows she cares about you so you don’t have to constantly analyze and try to find a solution to a problem, that really shouldn’t be a problem.
Women want consistency from a woman. You deserve the same thing. Never settle for an inconsistent woman.
