How to break up like a man and heal from a broken heart? Well, breakups are never easy, for both parties. The one who breaks up is hurting, and the one who’s being broken up hurts probably even more. As a man, you’re probably the one who has been left by his ex-girlfriend, but for the sake of this post, I want to talk about both angles, because it gives some good perspective on how to handle a breakup properly as a man. So, let’s talk about how to handle a breakup as a man, whether you are the one breaking up, or the one who has had his heart broken by his ex-girlfriend.

Hey guys, welcome back to the Breakup Corner, I’m Andi Galster, and here I teach men how to move on from their ex-girlfriend. So, practically 95% or more of my YouTube videos & posts are geared towards guys who have a broken heart because a girl has left them — or well, at least that is the assumption, which most likely will be correct. Usually, it’s women who initiate a breakup. But, actually, it’s very good to understand both sides of a breakup, because it can teach us a lot about how to act with strength and how to maintain your dignity as a man. 

When I was young, I was quite the shy man. I typically never asserted myself with friends, and certainly not women. I was quite the beta male and I didn’t really lead too much in relationships. And as a result, I was always the one my girlfriends would break up with. So I never really knew what it was like to break up with a girl, and especially my first two breakups made me feel really badly. I wasn’t severely heartbroken or had a massive crisis. Generally, I could not understand why my ex-girlfriends could just move on so easily from the relationship. I felt as if it was extremely easy for them to break up with me.

But, the truth is of course, that breaking up with someone is really, really hard. When you love someone, even if you may no longer want to be with them, at the very least, you are going to care for that person and you will feel absolutely terrible for breaking their heart. I only understood this once I became more assertive in my late 20s and started to no longer always chase every girl. For the first time, I would actually leave a woman early on if I knew she wasn’t the right one for me. And once, I even broke up with a woman already after we had been seriously dating for a few months because the circumstances or the timing were bad because of the COVID pandemic back then, and it was impossible to be with her due to travel restrictions… I really did not enjoy breaking her heart and it took me a lot of deliberation to make that choice.

So, anyway, I think it’s crucial to understand that when you break someone’s heart, it’s really not a nice experience. You feel terrible for hurting the person who you spent months or even years of your life with, and you only wish them all the best. But, in the end, when you know that this person doesn’t make you happy, and if for whatever reason you cannot see a way to improve the relationship, then there is no other choice but to break up. That’s point number one that I’d like to highlight for you, even if you haven’t broken up with your girlfriend, but got dumped by her. You should put things into perspective and not assume that you were automatically always seen as a trash boyfriend who had to be left. The chances are high that your girlfriend spent a lot of time thinking about this.

In a strange way, people who choose to break up with their partners can be admired. Breaking up requires a certain type of strength. Of course, choosing to stay with someone and fixing a relationship requires even more strength but I’d say these are very different kinds of struggles. Making a strong decision to end a relationship and then sticking to that decision is an attest to somebody’s mental fortitude and conviction to move forward with their life in the way that they believe to be the best way for them.

And so this, of course, is why women who break up with their partner tend to do so with a pretty clear path forward. They move on quicker after the breakup because, even though they may also be hurting, and depending on how the breakup happened, they may be hurting a hell of a lot…In the end, they made up their mind to end the relationship and start all over with their lives. And they didn’t come up with that decision in 5 minutes. It’s most likely been weeks of thinking about this. And once they’ve made up their mind, they decided to stick to the conviction that they had to move on from the relationship. And this is effectively the same way that you should be handling a breakup even if you are the one who got left by his girlfriend. Of course, this seems mentally very challenging if your ex broke up with you. You’re not the one who got to make this choice in the first place. But, either way, for men, making strong decisions to move forward in life is key to overcoming your biggest hardships.

One of the most important aspects of being a man is that sometimes, you have to stick with your decisions, even if they are painful. At times, you have no other choice than fight your way through uncomfortable life situations, such as a breakup where you miss your ex-girlfriend like crazy. Even if you aren’t the one who decided to break up, you still have to make the decision to move on with your life and come to the conclusion that it is for the best to not chase the shadow of that relationship.

Instead, you have to move forward. For most guys reading this post, your ex-girlfriend probably didn’t have it easy choosing to break up. That’s not to say that she won’t maybe have it easier after the breakup, but generally speaking, if she loved you, she made the painful decision to let go of the relationship. And now she’s sticking to this decision and trying to figure out how to move forward with her life.

You should do the same. The worst thing that a man can do after a breakup is to not accept that the relationship is over. What’s done is done. You need to have your own commitment towards starting from scratch. It’s quite common to see a breakup as a massive obstacle, and as something that is primarily a negative experience. And of course, there’s no denying that breaking up with a woman is very painful.

But in the end, mindset is the thing that gets a man through any life situation — if you have a strong mindset, and accept that it’s time to move on, then you will find a positive attitude, perhaps even excitement or a feeling of positive anger, that gets you to not feel defeated, heartbroken, lonely and depressed, but rather, you’re going to see your breakup as an opportunity to not only get back to your former self, but instead, you will fight through that pain, and come out on top of it.

After all this pain, the best way to overcome it, is to choose to become reborn as a man who’s 3 times more amazing than what you were like before the breakup. You will rise stronger and better from all this, if you accept that moving on is painful, but necessary. Choose to fight through that pain. See it as an opportunity to sharpen your character, to become more hard-working, more resilient and more attractive.

Rather than looking backwards, constantly wanting to get back what you lost… Which essentially is a way to stay weak, or rather, holding yourself back from regaining your strength… You need to move forward. Sometimes, after breakups, we think we’re just being strong by not succumbing to the pain. And yes, it requires a lot of strength, even just to get through the day when you deeply miss your ex-girlfriend. But the real strength is to not only make it through the day, but to make the most out of the day that you possibly can. That’s not always easy, but instead of trying to only survive, you should try to thrive. 

So if you want to break up like a man, or handle the breakup like a man, then don’t just be strong, but strongly move forward. Create new strength! Whether your ex-girlfriend broke up with you, or whether you decided it’s time to break up, don’t look backwards. Look forward and decide how you can stay committed to a new, powerful new future for yourself. As much as you’re in pain right now, once you get out of this painful phase, what kind of man do you want to be? What’s possible for you to achieve? And what sounds even crazy to achieve but if you were to reach that mountain, how high would you have climbed? Don’t get stuck in the past and keep on moving forward. Because that’s what a man does. He fights and keeps going even when life is rough. I know you have that strength within you. You may not feel strong, but you can cultivate your inner strength and bring it out, far stronger than you can even imagine right now.

Anyway, that’s all I’ve got for you this time.