Your self-discovery and growth aren’t your ex-girlfriend’s invitation to come back randomly. It’s your evolution for something better.
In the aftermath of a breakup, especially when your ex-girlfriend no longer wanted you, you embark on a journey of self-discovery. As a man, breakups are extremely heartbreaking. For a woman, going through breakup pain does not last as long. Women can find a new boyfriend extremely easy. But as a man, you have to fight for your happiness. Probably for months.
You don’t just get back up after a day and find a new woman to make you happy. Instead, you had to reinvent yourself beyond anything that you thought was possible. Breakup recovery for men is a path paved with introspection and lots of hard work. You have to take the few pieces that were left after your ex-girlfriend, and assemble them into something new. That’s not an easy feat. Any man who keeps going and becomes attractive again after his breakup is impressive. Women can see that.
Your breakup journey takes you to unexpected places. You uncover strengths you never knew you had, passions that lay dormant, dreams you’d forgotten. You learn to enjoy your own company, you become less codependent, more assertive, you learn to trust your instincts, to value your own opinion above all others and you become more confident than ever round women.
And just as you’re settling into this new, improved version of yourself, she comes back. It might feel like the universe is giving you a sign, like your growth was meant to bring her back. But tread with caution. Your progress isn’t a free invitation for her.
If she really misses you and thinks she made a mistake, then by all means, she should show you how much you mean to her. But this has to be genuine. Not superficial. You’re not the last choice among five other men that she dated. If she wants to be with you after you became twice as attractive than before the breakup, then she has to earn it. Just as you worked hard on yourself to do better, she needs to work hard to show you how valuable you are to her.
If she doesn’t show you this, don’t let yourself be fooled. You worked hard to become the man that you needed to be after all the heartbreak. Maybe you’re still going through that phase. You’re still fighting to become the man you want to be. You’re trying to find a better way to live your life, a better way to date, a better way to be in a relationship. Everything is in a state of constant improvement. That is respectable. That is impressive. Don’t let her take this for granted and don’t underestimate your own strength and attractiveness.
If you are working hard, and if your ex-girlfriend isn’t showing you the right kind of appreciation, then keep on walking. Keep on working hard. And soon enough, an incredible woman will see what an impressive man you are, and she will give you everything you could ever want from a girlfriend.
