How to forget your ex girlfriend who cheated on you? It’s quite ironic, isn’t it? Even if we know that an ex-girlfriend has done something awful such as cheating, oftentimes, we still cannot forget them. Sometimes it even gets WORSE because of how we’ve been mistreated. It’s as they say: Rejection breeds obsession. Cheating is a very extreme form of rejection and it can drive you crazy to think about the things that your ex-girlfriend has done with another man. So let’s talk about how to get over her and forget everything that happened.

Hey guys, welcome back to the Breakup Corner, I’m Andi Galster, and here I teach men how to move on from their ex-girlfriend. Dude, forgetting an ex-girlfriend who cheated on you is so difficult. And to be perfectly honest, I think I have to be transparent with all of you. I think even if you forget, and even if you forgive to a degree, being cheated on by a woman is something that you will never fully forget, at least, it stays in your subconscious as a memory that teaches you something about your entire world view. It changes you in profound ways. I think you cannot forget it once you’ve ever been dating a woman who was either seeking attention from other men, so at least emotionally cheating, or worse, if she had been physically cheating in some form. 

Now, I’m not saying you won’t forget your ex-girlfriend. Nor do I think you will forever have to think about what your ex-girlfriend has done to you. I had been cheated on once in the past in a very extreme way. Actually, it happened twice… Once when I was very young when I was in a long distance relationship… That one, I practically don’t care about at all. The relationship wasn’t too serious. It was just a lesson to be learned at a young age how some women just don’t care how they treat guys but it didn’t affect me too much.

But the second cheating was intense. To this day, I carry that experience of my ex chronically cheating on me in my heart. It profoundly changed how I looked at relationships and even at myself. Being in a relationship with a bad woman is something that is hard to forget. But it’s not all bad when I tell you that being cheated on will fundamentally change the way that you view women, love, relationships, commitment, lack of accountability, and more. In most cases, being cheated on by an ex-girlfriend can even be a beneficial experience because it teaches you one of the most essential love skill that any man has to learn:

Absolutely zero tolerance for a woman’s lack of accountability, lack of love, or lack of high moral standards.

As I said, you’re never going to fully forget your ex-girlfriend. But the thing is, if you make yourself aware of how BAD your ex-girlfriend was, then with time, this is the image and memory that you will retain of her. And that negative memory will be an absolute blessing that you cannot imagine right now. I am sure that right now, everything you are focused on is the fact that you still love her. That you cannot believe what happened, and that you can’t believe that you felt so close to her yet she betrayed you. And the worst part is, instead of hating her in a 100% clear fashion, your feelings about her are all over the place. But, if you make yourself aware of how bad she really is as a woman, then you will begin to understand that yes, it’s unbelievable. It’s disrespectful. And you deserved so much better. You should have been with a decent woman.

My own cheating experience happened more than 5 years ago. But still, I’ll forever keep that with me. But in retrospect, it’s done more good than bad things for me. It taught me how to spot red flags in a woman instantly. It taught me to hold myself accountable to be a better partner in relationships as well. It taught me to learn where both men and women make mistakes and how we sometimes talk in ways where neither is really listening to each other. And it taught me to say “no” right in the moment when I can see that a woman is messing up in a relationship. 

For example, when she’s cheating. When a woman cheats on you, she shows you the true colors of a bad woman. And even more so, it makes it blatantly obvious to you when you are actually dating an absolutely one-of-a kind woman that you can be sure will stay loyal to you for the rest of your life. You know, in my time as a dating and breakup coach, I’ve seen guys who wanted to go through all kinds of extreme ways to cope with the cheating of an ex-girlfriend. I once was on a call with a client, who wanted to install a tracker on his girlfriend’s car to prove that she was cheating…

First of all, that’s not right, even if she was cheating. But honestly, back then, I just felt… Why are you even with this woman, if she is giving you these extreme signals that she’s cheating? And look, I couldn’t tell for sure if she was cheating or not, but the point was, that he should have just ended the relationship if he was so unsure about what was going on in the relationship. That’s the kind of awareness that a truly bad relationship teaches you. Once you’ve been cheated on once, you would never put up with massive doubts like that. You’d simply walk away from such a woman and find another relationship where you wouldn’t need to worry about what she’s up to.

So, if you really want to forget your ex-girlfriend, especially if she has cheated on you, then the best thing you can do is hate her to a certain degree. Well, perhaps it shouldn’t be hatred per se, because that can turn into bitterness towards other women relatively fast. But certainly, a degree of pity and despise aren’t wrong ingredients for an ex-girlfriend who cheated on you.

The moment that you realize that your ex-girlfriend was an utterly terrible woman who had not even the most basic foundation of a moral framework, the sooner you can move on with your life. The most important thing I would like to pass on to men who have been hurt by women in the past is that not all women are bad.

In fact, I think the vast majority of women are great. And social media paints extremely inaccurate pictures of both men and women. Some of you may know that I’m an avid traveler. I’ve lived in most corners of the world, I’ve dated Germans, Americans, Mexicans, and Asians and I can definitely say that a good woman is the same wherever you live: She wants to be loved and wants a man who makes her feel special. If you can give this to a good woman, then she will never betray you. And of course, with a bad woman, you could promise her the world, treat her so good, and despite all of it, even just a few small mistakes here or there, lead her to do the worst kind of things to you. So obviously, the best way to forget a horrible woman, is to have the privilege and the blessing to date a much better woman, or at least, to spend time with much better women.

It’s really unfortunate that you ended up with a bad woman. It’s awful that she cheated on you. I can relate to your pain and the hurt because of all the time you invested in the relationship and you feel like you’ve been lied to for years. And that’s essentially what has happened. It’s not wrong to feel this way. Your ex-girlfriend made a choice to deceive you, and instead of working through your relationship problems or leaving you, she chose to pick the worst way to treat her boyfriend.

So if you want to forget your ex-girlfriend, simply remind yourself of that. Your ex is a bad woman. She is not representative of most women. And now that you’ve learned how an awful woman behaves, you will find a great woman easily. You can now spot the signs of a good woman. The only thing that you have to do to make this happen, is to remain positive. You can’t give up or hold yourself back from meeting women in the future. 

Life isn’t always painless, fair or kind.  But it’s up to every man to get back up and instead of looking at the cracks that indicate that something’s severely broken in the world, most women aren’t as messed up as your ex. So you need to choose to have a positive outlook on dating and enjoy the great women who ARE out there. And eventually, you will meet a great woman, with great energy, who is bubbly and kind, friendly, ambitious and caring, and many other good qualities. Don’t give up on love and accept that your ex-girlfriend was not this kind of woman. 

Now, will it be easy to meet such a great woman? No, of course not. You’ll have to put actual work into it. And again, life’s not fair. You will get rejected, or at times you’ll be disappointed when a good woman dates another man, and so on. At times, it’ll maybe even feel as if only the bad women are left to date, but that is once again, about mindset. And it also has to do with where you meet good women. 

If you go to the places where good women congregate, and if you avoid the obvious red flags, then one day, you are going to meet a good woman, and at the very latest, when you meet her and date her, you will forget your ex-girlfriend. Or at least, you will keep her in your memory as the type of woman you’d never want to date again. And you’ll be grateful for the woman that you’re dating right now.

One good way of keeping that positive spirit, is as I said, to make yourself aware of all the bad parts about your ex-girlfriend. And then contrast this with your dream woman. What’s your dream woman like compared to her? Then seek her out. Go to the places where you think you’d meet her. If you see the drastic difference in the behavior of a good woman, versus a bad woman, my god, there’s absolutely no reason to look back. You’ll probably wonder and laugh how you could ever date such a terrible woman. So, sometimes, all that’s needed to forget a cheating ex-girlfriend, or any terrible ex for that matter, is a little bit of perspective that the grass sometimes really is greener on the other side.

Anyway, that’s all I’ve got for you this time.