When your ex-girlfriend ghosted you after the breakup… Well, it’s probably a sign that it’s time to move on for good. It’s really tough when you want to talk to your ex, but she is trying to create more distance between the two of you, or you’re talking but then she ghosts again… Anything like this sucks a lot, so let’s talk about it.

Hey guys, welcome back to the Breakup Corner, I’m Andi Galster, and here I teach men how to move on from their ex-girlfriend. Breakups for a guy are extremely difficult. Most women are quite antagonistic or negative after a breakup. It’s been studied that women blame their male exes more than male exes blame their female exes. This is why it’s quite common after a breakup that an ex-girlfriend wants nothing to do with you, or at the very least, she wants to be left alone.

This is why it’s so hard as a guy to have a breakup, because you may wish to re-kindle the relationship, or even if you don’t want to actively try to get back together, it’s quite normal to try and at least talk to your ex-girlfriend, maybe try to gain closure, or even if you just want to make sure things are left on good terms… Whatever your reasons are, and even whether your reasons are half-made up and the reality is you’re just messaging her because you want to get back together, there’s a very high chance that your ex-girlfriend won’t reciprocate any of those feelings. When you talk to your ex-girlfriend after a breakup, I think the odds of getting ghosted or at least getting temporarily ignored are extremely high.

Coming to terms with this can be heart-shattering. There is nothing worse than having a breakup and then getting rejected by an ex-girlfriend, even if it’s just for simple things such as talking about the breakup or something specific that caused the breakup. Getting rejected or ignored by a woman is already painful when it’s done by a random woman or a woman that you hardly know, but when it’s done by an ex-girlfriend, it really creates deep wounds.

It kind of sends a signal to you that says “you are not wanted”. And I think a lot of men take this too personal. A lot of guys will see this as a reflection of something being wrong with them. But the truth is that it’s quite common for an ex-girlfriend to ignore you after the breakup. When a woman is done with a man, she really is done 100% for a very long time. She will want nothing to do with you because she made up her mind that she will find happiness elsewhere, and perhaps she’s already thinking that she can find that happiness with somebody else.

And to your ex-girlfriend, talking to you will only prolong the inevitable of both of you having to move on for good. Your ex-girlfriend is determined to move on. Yes, there are probably SOME reasons why she wants to move on and why she is okay already to move forward without regret, but overthinking why your ex is ghosting you doesn’t lead to anything. Sometimes, it may not necessarily mean that you are the worst ex-boyfriend on the planet. It just means that she has made a choice to let go and she may be turned off by you trying to get in touch with her.

And to be honest, your ex-girlfriend not wanting to talk to you is a wake-up call that it is time for you to do the same thing that she’s done most likely weeks before you even have considered doing so: It’s time to let her go.

I know it’s not fair. It’s easier for her to make that decision. Your ex probably had made up her mind that she is done with the relationship even weeks before the breakup happened, whereas you may still be in the phase of accepting that it happened in the first place. You are both running on two different timelines, or paths so to speak.

But at some point, every man has to accept that him and his ex are on two diverging paths. And if your ex-girlfriend ghosted you, or even if she’s just extremely slow in replying to you, or avoiding you, it’s time to accept that you need to move on with your life. And you shouldn’t chase her. No matter what the reason is why you’re still in touch with her or finding reasons to talk to her, she’s going in a different direction, and so should you.

Because man, I want you to be happy. And right now, you may have a broken heart, and you probably want to be with her. But someday, another woman will come along and love you like crazy. And by that time, you won’t even remember that your ex-girlfriend ghosted you. So now is the best time to focus on yourself and not worry about being ghosted. You probably shouldn’t be chasing anyone’s attention at all. Just focus on yourself. Rebuild your life. And if you believe that you need to talk to your ex in order to gain closure, or something along those lines, well, I hate to say it but it’s just not meant to happen and you have to recreate yourself, find peace, and start all over, without your ex. I know it’s not easy, but you can do it.

What I can tell you for sure, is that chasing her when she is ghosting you, will only make things worse. You will only lower your self-respect and unnecessarily put yourself in further situations where you feel rejected, hurt, unwanted, and so on. So, if your ex ghosted you, just let it go. She made her choice, she wants nothing to do with you, or only talks to you when it’s convenient for her. So, you should focus on your own life and your own happiness, and not make your ex-girlfriend a part of that.

Anyway, that’s all I’ve got for you this time.