A hot girl helps you get over your ex — is it true? Well, it probably isn’t as simple as you might think. On paper it sounds like an obvious truth, but… How true is it really? Let’s talk about it. Hey guys, welcome back to the Breakup Corner, I’m Andi Galster. Here I teach men how to move on from their ex-girlfriends. 

Alright, so, this is a pretty popular folk wisdom amongst people, that when you had a breakup, especially as a guy, when you feel devastated because you really loved the girl, you should just find yourself a new hot girl to date. And of course, that is easier said than done, but, essentially, if you can somehow manage to meet a great girl, maybe it’s going to be at a party, then that should help you with moving on.

And of course, a “hot girl” is relative. To a guy, most women are above average attractive, and then anything beyond that is super hot or a model-type woman. So it kind of depends a bit on your experience level and what type of women you’ve dated in the past. But just generally speaking, if you are dating a woman that turns you on a lot, is that going to solve all your breakup problems? Will you suddenly move on in no time because the new girl is so amazing?

Well, as I said: It depends. Yes, and no. The short answer is that theoretically, you could have dated an average looking girl, maybe barely attractive, but you really loved her a lot. And you could be dating the most gorgeous woman you could imagine… And the truth is, you could still not be satisfied with her, or more precisely, you could still miss your ex girlfriend despite that. And you might even still compare your ex girlfriend, when in reality, another man looking objectively at your new girlfriend would 100% say that she is a massive upgrade.

So, in general, just because you’re dating a new woman, even a very attractive one at that, it doesn’t automatically mean that you’re now magically going to move on from your ex girlfriend. Also, it’s really important to mention that just dating another woman for the sake of moving on from an ex girlfriend isn’t really a good strategy in general. Feeling the strong urge to date because you just want to get over your ex-girlfriend already is more a sign that you should take more time to move on and focus on yourself, rather than jumping into a new relationship.

But of course, all of that said, there will come a time, when you have somewhat moved on, not fully but you’re kind of considering dating again. Sure, you still miss your ex girlfriend but also want to move on with your life and give love another chance. And so when you’re dating at that point, you’re probably somewhere in the middle. It could maybe still be considered as a rebound relationship, but you’re so close to the point of properly moving on, that all you need is one last good push. 

That one great girl to meet who’s going to make you feel appreciated and finally forget the last few memories about your ex-girlfriend. I once thought of a metaphor about love, which I really like… I see loving a woman kind of like filling a sponge with water. We soak up love for the woman that we love, and while we’re in the relationship, it’s like we’re dipping the sponge in water regularly. But then, when your ex is gone, the water is slowly dripping, And eventually, there’s only a little bit of water left that you can squeeze out in one go, or it will slowly condense away with time. That’s how it will feel like when you’re almost ready to move on, and all you need is to meet one great woman.

The one who’s going to make life awesome. And when that time comes, especially if she’s hot, and especially if she’s crazy for you, then yes, let’s be honest, you probably will never think about your ex girlfriend ever again. In fact, that’s been studied quite a lot. Being in relationships helps a lot with forgetting previous partners. But time-wise, it has to happen when you’re ready to start new, not when you’re thinking that another woman will make it all better. You shouldn’t be in a relationship for the sake of being in one, so that you can move on from your ex. That’s a recipe for disaster that will always backfire.

But yes, if you are still a little bit heartbroken from your last relationship, and you haven’t fully managed to move on, then by all means, start dating and more importantly, try to challenge yourself. As long as you’re not extremely desperate for validation from anything, or anybody, then it’s okay to start meeting women again.

Try to date a very attractive woman. Maybe even one that you would have been too insecure to date in the past. And try to go to a place, where you will meet a lot of attractive women, where you will have to step out of your comfort zone and really step up your game to look attractive to those women. Obviously, with that comes a lot of risk, rejections, and that can at times also feel defeating, but the rewards can be quite substantial when you succeed.

So, it’s often said that if you want to get over someone, you should get under someone. Let a hot woman go for a wild ride on you. And yea, that’s true if it’s a genuine connection, and you truly care about that woman. If what you’re building with her is profound, long-lasting, and not just a meaningless fling, then it will definitely help you to forget your ex-girlfriend. But, forgetting her, or getting over her is probably not the right word here. It’s like the metaphor with the sponge. It’s that you are forcing your ex-girlfriend out, but rather, the last remnants of the memories about your ex, which are holding you back to date again, are being flushed out of your system. That’s how you have to see it.

And just hooking up with a hot woman so you forget your ex-girlfriend is pointless, in general. You know my life philosophy… While I want every man to be confident and successful enough with women, so that he could date as often as he’d like and have the ability to choose exactly the woman that he wants to be with… 

In the end, I believe that the goal has to be to date one great woman, and to commit to her. And that’s what you should be focused on. And definitely, focusing on aspiring to date a stunning woman is a great goal to have. The point here that I’m making is that you shouldn’t make a correlation between your sexual desires for hot women as a means to move on. You should just date a hot woman, because as man, we love hot women. We’re physically wired, and there’s nothing more satisfying than being with a woman who makes our sexual desires go wild.

So, find yourself a hot girl, but don’t just find one where the goal is just to be sexual. The goal is to be with her because she triggers your sexual desires on a deep level, beyond short-term gratifications. And don’t just see her as a tool to move on. That’s messed up to be honest. Be with a hot woman, because you’re done with being single. You’re done with spending the weekend alone at home. You’re done not having a great time, and you want to share your life with a great woman. And yes, you want to have a lot of good fun in the bedroom. That’s about it. Don’t do it because of your ex, do it because the woman that you met is amazing. 

Also, the question of “does a hot woman solve all my problems”, could imply that you may be looking for a woman who’s a bit too easy to obtain. Of course, every woman wants to look pretty, every woman wants to look sexy, but some women are dressing a little bit too sexy. They are presenting their bodies a little bit as too sexually available. Too easily available. 

And that’s the kind of woman that will probably not help you move on from your ex, but rather, that’s the kind of woman that will probably not satisfy you emotionally, and when this happens, then the exact opposite result will occur. If the woman that you’re dating doesn’t satisfy you, guess what? You’re going to miss your ex girlfriend. 

So, find that hot woman that’s out there for you, be sure that she is the classy hot type of woman, not just a woman who looks hot because she goes out of her way to look too sexually alluring in public. With that said guys, I know, some of you watching are probably hurting more than others and all of you are still struggling a lot with letting go, so first, stay sharp. Sharpen the saw. Sharpen your character, your goals, your achievements. Become attractive, and that hot woman that’ll make you forget your ex-girlfriend is going to come along and want you in no time.

Anyway, that’s all I’ve got for you this time.