How to get over a cheating girlfriend fast. Getting over an ex-girlfriend is never easy, and if she cheated on you, it adds the torture of constantly thinking about how your ex-girlfriend betrayed you, and what she did with the man she cheated on you with. It’s even harder if your ex-girlfriend is now dating the man that she betrayed you with.

There are so many negative ways how you could look back on the relationship. You could blame yourself for what went down. You could be extremely angry and bitter. Or you could have an extremely low self-esteem. It really depends on your relationship history and a little bit on your personality trait. But what’s for certain is that you must be in a lot of pain right now. So let’s talk about how you can get over that pain fast — yes, it sounds impossible, but it’s sort of possible to get over a cheating ex-girlfriend fast. Here’s how.

Hey guys, welcome back to the Breakup Corner, I’m Andi Galster, and here I talk teach men how to move on from an ex-girlfriend. So, I want to talk for a moment about the one thing that a lot of men neglect when their ex-girlfriend cheated on them: Cheating is easy and lazy. Bad people will rather find the easiest way to be happy again in a relationship, rather than doing hard work. 

And so, the hard approach would be to actually sit down with your partner, perhaps have really uncomfortable conversations about how you are not making each other happy, how you’re ignoring each other, always putting each other down, and so on. Or perhaps, you may try to actually arouse a fight because everything in the relationship became an absolute routine where you are more roommates than real lovers and partners who strive towards new goals. Whatever it is that needs to be addressed, and whatever approach may be required to do so, you’d take the effort to try and improve the relationship. You might not always do the right thing or follow the best approach, but at least, you would be trying hard to do the best you could with your current knowledge and understanding of relationships and communication principles.

That’s the whole point of relationships. To be there with the other half in good and bad times, and to work through the bad times, rather than just walking away, or finding other ways to find happiness. And if you’re lazy, not loyal, and don’t want to put any effort into the relationship, then you’re simply going to find someone else who makes you happy. 

Now, I want to emphasize that you cannot generalize every person the same way, but generally speaking as a society, we value what’s hard. People who do things the easy way aren’t successful, respected, and they are generally not interesting individuals. Often, the things that can be achieved easily are done by bad people. For example, a group of pickpockets are mediocre individuals because they’d rather steal in easy ways, than work hard.

Or when I was in the Philippines, I was friends with this girl… I kinda also was into her. But anyway, she ended up dating a scammer, who eventually took some of her money and ran off with it. He was a really bad guy because he always looked for easy ways to make money. So, people who look for easy solutions in life, and often, especially when those easy solutions hurt others, we can’t respect them.

We usually trust those people who put in more effort than 1000 other people are putting in for the same goal. And of course, those people who worked three times as hard than everybody else, deserve their big win. So when your ex-girlfriend cheated on you, it means that she wasn’t just an average woman. She can even be considered a mediocre woman. And acknowledging this is crucial to move on faster after a woman cheats on you.

First of all, it’s been proven that acknowledging the bad aspects of your partner, especially if there were far more bad ones than good ones, is extremely helpful with moving on from a relationship. So just the mere fact that you begin to recognize that your ex-girlfriend wasn’t a good person, and that she is the type of woman who would rather seek shortcuts in a relationship and life, tells you that you can consider yourself lucky for no longer being in this relationship.

The longer that you would have stayed with her, the harder it would have been to eventually lose the relationship. This is why, for example, I personally think it’s always good to break up early with women when you can feel that it’s just not the right relationship for you — because you wouldn’t want the girl to get unnecessarily hurt by being too invested in the relationship. Of course, maybe it’s been quite a while already that you were together, but it doesn’t change the fact that you finally are free of this awful woman.

Of course, it doesn’t feel that way at all after a breakup that you’re finally free to move towards a better life, even if you were cheated on by your ex, but in the long-run, you will begin to recognize that you dodged a bullet by seeing her true colors rather sooner than later. Now, I know, for some of you, perhaps the cheating happened after MANY years of the relationship, so you may not feel like you were spared years of a bad investment into a bad relationship. So, finding the silver lining here can be difficult, so let’s talk about the second aspect, which is the main thing I’d like to address for this post. 

Your ex-girlfriend was mediocre for choosing to cheat on you. But you aren’t. This is a really important aspect of a breakup with a toxic, unhealthy ex-girlfriend. After breakups, we instinctively always want to be the one who comes out on top of it. We want to show that we’re fine, that we don’t care, that we’re happy even without our ex.

I think that generally speaking, this isn’t always healthy or the right way to look at it, especially if you had a good relationship and overall your ex-girlfriend was a good woman. Even if there has been a lot of drama in the end… I mean, usually it still takes two to tango. Obviously, if you had a good relationship, and both partners made equally good and bad decisions, then ultimately, we should still be grateful for the relationship and there is no need to see one or the other as the winner who’s happier than the other after the breakup. Or we shouldn’t see one person as the horrible person who deserves to be miserable, and the other person should be a happy winner in life.

However, with a toxic ex-girlfriend, especially something like a cheating ex-girlfriend, I feel like this acknowledgement that your ex was a mediocre cheater can feel extremely empowering. Ultimately, as a man after a breakup, you should always work hard on yourself to re-invent yourself, to become more intelligent, to become a wiser and more attentive future partner, to become a better listener, to develop more charisma, to improve your career, to develop more muscles at the gym. And perhaps, you’ll live a healthier life in general with a better diet, maybe you’ll learn to cook, and so on. You essentially should consider your breakup as a massive opportunity to become the next-best version of yourself. 

And when you follow that process, and you can see your ex-girlfriend for who she really is… A mediocre woman who will always find shortcuts, and never works hard for anything in her life, well, it’s almost guaranteed that you will eventually very quickly outgrow her. You’ll be the one who will have learned a lot from the relationship. Even your own mistakes. Despite her terrible cheating you’ll probably still take ownership of what you did wrong and improve those aspects. 

And because of this, a few months from now, or a few years from now, you’ll find a much better woman. You’ll be the one who will look extremely attractive after the breakup, and you will have a lot of women wanting to be with you with your new-found confidence. Meanwhile, she has to scrape through mediocre men who would engage in a cheating relationship. She’s probably still going to be the same woman, who never learned, who never challenged herself to do better, who never was honest with herself that she messed up.

There’s merit in doing the hard things in life. It is a good thing to be your strongest critic, especially when you operated in moral gray zones, where you could easily find excuses for your own actions. Instead of running away from your bad choices, you actually tried to still learn from them and find an honest approach to the worst outcomes, behaviors, and traits in your life.

Once you see that you are the type of man who will always take the hard path, the type of man who makes sacrifices, who is honest with himself and doesn’t sugarcoat his behaviors, and if you don’t look for quick dopamine highs to make you feel better, then you’ll see that losing your ex-girlfriend was for the better.

Because while you will be growing, reading books and REALLY absorbing the knowledge, trying to apply it, and properly make peace with your own mistakes and false assumptions about relationships, life, and the world, she’s probably just messing around with another man. And one day, you will run into your ex-girlfriend, and you will be so turned off by the type of woman that she still is. 

When you really get to work on yourself after a breakup, especially if you had a horrible ex-girlfriend, then it often feels almost as if your ex-girlfriend has changed into a worse person when you encounter her again, but the truth is just that you realize that she’s always been that person to begin with, the only difference is that back then you still had a high tolerance for her bad characteristics. And hey, maybe you even had your own flaws… But you actually grew out of some of your bad habits, traits, thought patterns, and so on. You actually evolved to be a better man. So, yea, it’s not like she’s become worse, it’s just that now you can clearly see that she’s a horrible woman. And that is a great feeling. To no longer care about your ex-girlfriend who cheated on you, because it’s crystal clear to you that she’s a horrible woman. That’s how you truly and easily move on from an awful cheater.

So I would like to encourage you to see your ex-girlfriend for who she really is. Even if you may still love her, miss her, think about her very often, and try to find reasons for why she cheated on you, it’s time to accept that you were dating a mediocre woman. And then perhaps even think about what a much better woman would look like. Ask yourself what a better woman would have done in your situation. Create a vision on a sheet of paper of what kind of woman you would like to be with in a perfect scenario, and ask yourself what type of man you should be to date that type of woman. 

Now that you are no longer with your mediocre ex-girlfriend, the sky is the limit. You can now become an absolutely charming, confident, positive and always go-lucky man who inspires others to live a good life. And that energy will eventually lead you to be in a great relationship with a great woman. So instead of staying focused on all the pain that you are feeling right now, focus on how you can move forward, outgrow your ex-girlfriend, and find satisfaction in the knowledge that you are slowly but surely becoming an incredibly inspiring man. Move forward with positivity and let go of your mediocre ex-girlfriend. And perhaps, let’s say in a year from now, when you look back at your ex-girlfriend, or God forbid, you will run into this awful woman, you’ll probably smirk simply because you know that she’s still the same. Nothing’s changed. 

That happened to me once. The breakup that motivated me to become a relationship expert… Well, my ex kept on sending me the same vague, non-commital messages about implying that she wanted to fix the relationship, but she NEVER took any accountability. Really, she wanted ME to fix it for her. She always blamed all her own behaviors on me. She never saw anything wrong in what she did, and she never even said sorry for the awful things she had done back then. And at some point, I finally saw her for who she was. An irredeemable cheater. One of those cliche women who had been too promiscuous in her 20s, and then, finally after she had her fun and broke many hearts, she thought she could just have one of her stupid exes take her back. But that didn’t work.

She did the same with her ex while she was with me, and he blocked her. And I felt the same way about her once I realized what an awful woman she was. By that point, I just didn’t care anymore. I honestly pitied her in secret for being unable to do better. And I was just glad that I had changed from missing her and loving her a lot, to feeling sorry for her and being grateful that I didn’t have to ever see her again. That moment will come for you soon enough. Start with being honest about how bad she is. Then improve your life. And in a very short time from now, you’ll look at your ex in a completely different light, and you’ll be amused that you struggled getting over her.

Anyway, that’s all I’ve got for you this time.