The gym builds more than just muscles after a breakup. It builds the resilience to fight through the pain.

When life knocks you down, and when you feel all alone after your ex-girlfriend is gone, you need something to help you get through the suffering. Missing a woman is one of the toughest experiences a man can go through. I’m sure you’re dealing with many disappointments and feelings of inadequacy, but there’s one thing that will never disappoint you: The gym.

The gym is there to help you get back up. No matter how low it feels that you have sunken, you can get through this. With the dedication to fight, you will motivate yourself. You’ll pump your mental muscles just like you will pump your biceps. There’s nothing better than hit the gym when you feel heartbroken. Does it solve all your problems? No, of course not. But it’s a great distraction. And it shows you that you’re still strong. You’re still capable of fighting. You’re still able to prove to yourself that you aren’t as weak as you feel right now.

Go hit the gym and let your frustration out on the weights. Push yourself. Not for revenge, or to show her that she should take you back, or to “be the winner” after your breakup. Just do it for yourself to prove to yourself that you can still be strong in other ways. Discipline at the gym can be a powerful tool to create a new routine. It’s so difficult when every day feels like yet another battle, and you just want it to be over. The gym brings you a level of consistency and stability.

And most importantly, every rep, every set, every drop of sweat is a decision. When you hit the gym, you tell yourself: “I am strong. I am resilient. I am not going to let this mess me up. I am not going to keep going like this. I can get through this. I have the brains and the muscles to climb my way out of this valley.” 

And when you’re at the end of that climb, in a few months from now, you’ll be standing on top of the mountain. Proud that you didn’t give up. Ready for another day. Ready for the gym. Ready to live life and keep that momentum going. 

Continue on Hit the gym. Even if you’re just starting out, don’t be afraid. A bunch of weights are nothing compared to the emotional weight you’re learning to handle. And don’t be afraid if you feel insecure. It’s okay to feel insecure, especially after a breakup. Take it day by day. The more often you go to the gym, the more confident you’ll be. And that confidence will help you overcome your broken heart as well.

Push yourself. Let every workout be a step towards the stronger, more confident version of yourself. In 6 months from now, you’ll be an absolute beast. Attractive AND happy again at the same time.